How to talk to a Dominatrix on the internet?

Whether you’re a submissive, Switch, Dom, other…

And generally speaking, whether or not you’re looking, how should you approach a Dominatrix?

As a humain being

Simply by talking to another humain being.
We routinely have complete profiles on dating sites, Fetlife, etc… and I very often find that they aren’t even read.

How many times have I received “Hello Mistress, do you want a soubrette/make me your bitch/train me/etc…”

Let’s be clear, I’m only Mistress of the person I make my own, it’s a mark of belonging to be able to call me that.
You, whom I don’t know, have in no way earned that right.
And that goes for many, many Dominants. If you call yourself a submissive, make it clear that it’s not up to you to decide what title to give.

Personalize your exchanges

Another recurring problem is the copy/paste of a text that might be pleasant, if it wasn’t the same one, sent to 100 different Dominas.
And yes, it shows when you haven’t bothered to read, and take an interest in the person opposite.

Then there’s the physique. Why spend 10 lines describing how much you weigh, what you look like and, even worse, whether you have a good body or a bad one?
A D/s relationship is all about the mind, and if we really want physical details, we can ask for them.

If you want to communicate with a Dominatrix, especially if you’re particularly interested in her, show that you’re interested in who she is, her desires, her aspirations.

It’s a great sign of respect and interest, and will set you apart from the many messages we get all the time.

Accept the lack of response

Remember, too, that we receive hundreds of solicitations, and that it can be tedious and tiring to respond to them all. What’s more, when the message resembles the thousands we’ve already received and doesn’t interest us.

A Dominante has no obligation towards you, even if you want to submit, even if you’re a novice, even if you’re frustrated, even if she has practices you’re interested in or has made photos you’ve enjoyed.

This does not oblige the Dominatrix to reply.

A Lady doesn’t owe you anything just because she exists or because she likes you. If she doesn’t want to answer you, that’s her choice. If she doesn’t want to practice with you, that’s her choice too. Nor does she owe you an explanation.
And it’s a real shame to see such demands being made so often by people who also claim to be submissive. When this happens, be aware that you are only subject to yourself.

Ask any questions you may have in the comments, and I’ll be happy to answer them.
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